This week was a struggle in some ways, but it was also good. I have been dealing with a lot of fear of joy again. I also find it hard to take credit for things I do well in case it means people expect me to always do as well. To turn these negative convictions around and focus on the positive, I am listing some things I am proud of myself for this week. I am joining today’s Word of the Day Challenge, because the word happens to be “Proud”. Okay, that was what inspired me, so I need to give the creators of the challenge credit here. I am also joining in with #LifeThisWeek.
1. I am proud of the progress I am making with polymer clay. I have been practising making layered cookie cutter shapes and can now do them on pasta machine setting three at least with Fimo Professional pretty successfully. I am still learning with Fimo Soft, as that’s a bit too sticky for my liking.
2. I am proud of myself for having been relatively physically active despite some pain. I am not giving in to every little ache, but I’m not overdoing it either.
3. I am proud of myself for not having run away or become actually aggressive when a fellow client was screaming at full volume for like an hour last Thursday. I mean, like I mentioned before, I did become a little threatening, but I didn’t hurt her, the staff or myself.
4. I am proud of myself for having survived today’s trip to Ikea, with most things we needed being very hard to find or out of stock, without getting very distressed. I managed to get a dustbin as well as a desk, or rather, separate legs and a top. When we got to the storage department, we couldn’t find the desk top but there was another, very similar one in its place. I wasn’t sure we’d got the right one, but we asked the shopping assistant and it was the one we needed.
5. I am proud of myself for having lost the weight I’d gained last month again this month. I stepped onto the scales again this morning and am exactly 72kg now. Of course, my weight has been fluctuating anyway, but it’s not gone up significantly at least.
What are you proud of yourself for?
Well done for IKEA, that can sometimes be an ordeal!
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It definitely can be. Thankfully, it was relatively quiet this time.
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Good for you on feeling good about yourself. That’s sometimes an achievement in itself, and something to be proud of. Esp if old wiring wants to tell you otherwise. #Lifethisweek
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Thank you for saying that. I agree indeed.
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Things to be proud of is a great exercise. I’m especially impressed about you getting through IKEA! #lifethisweek
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Thank you. Yes, it was hard, but I managed it. Thankfully, it was relatively quiet.
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All in all that sounds really terrific and you had a good weekend and a good week!
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Thanks. Yes, I had a mostly good week indeed.
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Well done, it’s always good to acknowledge what we’ve achieved. I’m coping well with lockdown so far and am pleased I can amuse myself without resorting to doing housework 🙂 #lifethisweek
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Thank you for commenting. Oh, I’m so sorry you’re still in lockdown where you are. I’m so proud of you for being able to amuse yourself too.
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Well done Astrid.
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Thanks! 🙂
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You’re welcome!!
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Oh Astrid I can relate to your frustration about travelling to Ikea (or anywhere) and not finding what you expect to.
I also really liked your comment about receiving praise making you worry that others expect the same thing of you all of the time. I’d never really thought of it like that, but it makes sense that I might feel uncomfortable with praise for that same reason.
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I’m glad I was able to shed some light on an issue you’re facing too re praise making you feel uncomfortable. I have been in treatment and training settings pretty much my entire adult life up till two years ago and it was the norm there that if you showed a skill once or twice, you were expected to be able to do this all of the time. Also uneven skill distribution (like being able to work a computer but not put jelly on my bread, for example) was looked upon suspiciously. In light of this, it makes sense that I feel weird about praise. Anyway thank you so much for commenting.
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This is so wonderful.. really pleased for you. Fear of joy is huge for me too..
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I’m so sorry fear of joy is such a problem for you too, but glad I’m not alone. Thank you for commenting.
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Im sure you arent. Brene Brown writes a bit about it.
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Oh that’s so interesting. I’ve never read anything by Brene Brown yet, but really should.
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She calls it foreboding joy.. I think she spoke about in an interview with Ophra Winfrey on You Tube.
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Oh I’ll check it out. Thanks for letting me know.
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Well done you for some many things! Have fun with the polymer clay.
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Thank you so much. I’m certainly having fun.
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Well done you!! You should be proud of yourself.
It sounds like you are doing great with your clay work. Powering through the aches sometimes can be a good thing. I’ve been exercising more and was ready to give up because of the aches but carried on and I feel better for it now. x
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Thanks! I agree about powering through, it can be hard but it is also necessary when done in a balanced way.
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I think it’s great to stop and acknowledge the reasons for being proud of ourselves. We do tend to be over critical of ourselves so it’s a nice balance. Surviving IKEA! Now there’s a reason to be proud of yourself. I love ikea but it can be difficult
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Thank you. Yes, I love the large selection of things to buy at Ikea but the experience going there can certainly be overwhelming.
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Lots of things to be proud of. IKEA trips are stressful at the best of times – well done for coping so well with one. I can understand what you mean about finding it hard to take credit for things you do well in case people always expect it of you. It’s nice when you can enjoy the praise without feeling under pressure. #MMBC
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Thank you. I’m glad I’m not alone in struggling with the pressure of having to perform well at all times.
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This was a post with great accomplishments and confidence written because I could sense it coming from within. Loved your self-analysis and kindly words for yourself too.
Thank you for linking up for Life This Week. Next week, the optional prompt is Time. I hope to see you link up again. Warmest wishes, Denyse.
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Thank you so much for your kind words. I’ll definitely try to join in next week again.
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