#WeekendCoffeeShare (November 8, 2020)

Hi all on this sunny Sunday! Okay, it’s past 9PM here and the sun has set already, but it was sunny during the day. I should really have taken a picture.

I just had my last drink for the day. However, the beauty of virtual coffee shares is that people can join in whenever they want. So grab a cup of coffee, green tea or water. I’m pretty sure there are also soft drinks in the fridge, but I rarely drink those now. Let’s have a drink and let’s catch up. As usual, I am linking up with #WeekendCoffeeShare.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that this whole week, the weather has been beautiful. It was a little chilly some days, but not as cold as you might expect in November. In fact, today, I even took a walk with my husband without my coat on. I did of course wear a fleece vest. It was sunny and almost warm.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that I canceled my sister’s visit for this week too. The reason this time is a combination of the stricter COVID-19 management rules and my husband wanting to celebrate his birthday with me this week-end. With respect to the former, for example, my sister could be visiting with her husband and daughter, but three adults are not allowed together outside. This would mean my brother-in-law wouldn’t be able to go on walks with me and my sister. As if the risk of contracting COVID is higher outside than inside.

Also, I wouldn’t be allowed to go to my husband’s after they visited. Or maybe strictly speaking I could, but it’d be against the spirit of the lockdown. My husband felt pressured by me to let my sister and family visit, but eventually it became clear he’d really like to have me over for the week-end to celebrate his birthday. His birthday is on the 12th, by the way. So since my husband’s birthday is more important than a random visit from my family, we’re going to reschedule that sometime after the worst of the lockdown has ended.

If we were having coffee, I’d share that I gave my husband an Airfryer for his birthday. He made us both thick fries in it yesterday. Even though I’m pretty sure he didn’t salt mine, or at least not as much as I’d have done, they were still delicious. My husband joked that we’d have vegan fries (duh!) but to make up for it, we would eat real hamburgers. They were great too.

If we were having coffee, lastly, I would tell you that I was in a bit of a crisis this evening again. I got majorly triggered by a staff raising her voice as she commanded me to go to my room. She had intended for me to seek the quiet of my room, because I was rapidly becoming overloaded with all that was going on with the other clients. Her wording that I’m not the only one (I’m pretty sure she didn’t say it that way, but that’s how I interpreted it) triggered me to feel that I wasn’t allowed to feel the way I did and was attention-seeking. This then quickly spiraled out of control. Thankfully in the end, I was able to talk it through with the staff and also write down my feelings. I did take a PRN lorazepam, but that’s totally okay.

What’s been going on with you lately?

13 thoughts on “#WeekendCoffeeShare (November 8, 2020)

  1. Glad to hear things are better for you now! I was on vacation this week so I’m getting readjusted back to reality and I’m not feeling it lol. I did miss my air-fryer though since I cook in it a lot.

    Anything, in particular, you’re looking forward to cooking in it?

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  2. Sorry you got triggered, thank god for PRN meds! I am glad you managed to talk things out with the staff member! The fries sounded delicious, have a good celebration with your husband this weekend! X

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  3. Hi Astrid. Great to have a chance to catch up with you. We had a nuts day on Sunday, so I’m behind on the last few coffee share visits, but it sounds like you and your husband had a great visit and now I’m hungry for some fries from our cooker.

    I feel your distress at losing it with that staffer who lost her temper with you. Just about 3 months ago, Our son managed to burn up the engine of a car I owned and we had parked it at the top of our driveway to make it easy to be towed away. Our next door neighbor did not like our doing this and strongly hinted that she wanted us to move it down, out of sight, but right in our way each day. I told her no, the care was fine right where I had it and this really set her off. Angry words went back and forth and I was trying to remain calm and kind, but I really hate being pushed around by anyone and where I parked my car on my property is my business, so the more insistent she became, the more terse my words back to her got. After just a few short minutes, I was very angry with her and needed to just walk and not do anything that would expose others to my temper. Despite my trying, she really got to me.

    Anger is part of who we are and what we are, but the civilized person also knows when and how to walk away to avoid letting someone else hurt us somehow.

    No fun for sure. It looks like you too handled your trigger pretty well, not perfect maybe, but still pretty good. I hope you don’t find yourself is that state of mind often because I know you are a pleasant and kind person in your heart.

    Thanks for the visit.

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