Tomorrow is my 34th birthday. My parents came for a visit today. My mother, for the first time in so many years, didn’t openly reminisce about the time I was a baby. In fact, she seemed rather relaxed.
I was born three months prematurely. My due date would’ve been September 29, 1986 instead of June 27. Most if not all of my multiple disabilities are the direct result of my premature birth. I mean, it’s controversial to say this about autism, as most people in the autistic community claim it’s purely genetic. I have some genetic risk factors too, in that both my father and paternal grandfather are/were of the broader autistic phenotype. We can never be sure though how much my genetics contributed and how much the brain bleed and subsequent hydrocephalus I suffered did. In any case, my blindness and mild cerebral palsy are both due to my premature birth. My blindness is caused by an eye condition called retinopathy of prematurity and my CP is due to the aforementioned brain bleed.
As much as I sometimes seek to discuss my early childhood with my parents, I’m happy neither brought up the topic this year. They were in some rather brutal ways confronted with my current life. After all, due to the COVID-19 measures, I couldn’t be at my husband’s home when they visited. This was one of the first times my parents actually visited me in a care facility. When I was in the psychiatric hospital, either they’d visit me at my student apartment or later at my and my husband’s home. I think there were a few years, probably 2010 and 2011, when I had neither, but they always managed to take me out to some restaurant or something then. They were probably confronted with care facilities a few more times, but not in the past eight or so years.
A fellow resident tried to hug my mother when she came in. She didn’t comment. She did ask at some point whether my fellow clients can talk and I honestly replied that most can’t. When I told her there are clients in other homes I can talk to, she did ask why I didn’t live there then. I just said I didn’t have the right care profile for those homes or there was no available room.
Honestly, I’m totally relieved that my parents didnt’criticize me. I know they don’t agree with my being in a care facility. Still, they probably realized I’m not their little baby anymore.
Written for Fandango’s One-Word Challenge (#FOWC): baby.
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Thanks. 💜
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Happy birthday for tomorrow.
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Thanks so much!
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I pray you enjoy your birth anniversary tomorrow as well as have lots of fun today.
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Thanks. 🙂
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Happy birthday, may you be richly blessed and granted all that you wish for yourself.
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Thanks so very much. I was definitely blessed.
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Well that sounds somewhat good and I’m really glad you got to visit with her. Happy early Birthday from all of us!
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Thanks so much for the birthday wishes! 🙂
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I hope you enjoy your birthday.
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Thanks so much! I definitely do so far.
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Have fun celebrating your Birthday!
I was born prematurely as well, in my case hearing was affected. I talked about this with my parents often, and I know the circumstances surrounding my birth were traumatic for all of us. But somehow we moved on, and maybe your mother did as well.
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Thanks so much for your support. Yes, I think my mother moved on. Now I need to move on as well.
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Happy happy birthday to you! 🙂 I hope it’s going very well. 🙂
I’m glad your parents weren’t overly judgmental, or at least that their didn’t voice it, and that their visit went relatively well.
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Thanks so much for the birthday wishes. 💜
I’m definitely happy about how well the visit with my parents went.
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Happy Birthday! I’m glad your parents came to see you at the care facility. I don’t know of autism being more prevalent in premature babies and thought it was genetic. There are probably several factors involved.
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Thanks so much! Yes, autis is more prevalent in preemies than in babies born full-term. The reasons are still unclear.
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