Well, this is an interesting question. One could define romantic as a form of attraction, ie. being in love or having a crush on someone. In that sense, I would say I rarely if ever experience it. I mean, I had childhood crushes, but the reason I called these crushes was more because that’s what everyone else called them. You know, when a girl and a boy hang out, they are almost automatically assumed to be in love. And even when I found out I liked girls more, I still said I was “in love” because everyone my age had a boyfriend or girlfriend.
When I met my now best friend, both of us probably had similar thoughts of what sharing our life was supposed to mean. We now realize we weren’t looking for a romantic partner but for a best friend. So that’s what we are. We are technically still married, but we aren’t in love. Honestly, never were.
Then, “romantic” can refer to an expression of thinking someone is special. In this sense, I am quite romantic. I am a sucker for hearts even though they make my best friend feel slightly uncomfortable now that we’ve clarified to each other that we aren’t in love. In this sense, the feeling of having a crush on someone, for me, is quite different from feeling that they’re special. I must admit I’m still figuring these things out though.
That is interesting Astrid! I’m a suckers for hearts, too! X
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Thank you! I think honestly the idea that hearts are inherently related to being in love, is a bit annoying.
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Tim may not be the most romantic man but he loves me and makes me happy and I cannot imagine life without him
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Aw, wonderful! I’m so happy that you have him in your life.
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Are we talking about the same Tim?
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I doubt it. Tim is Jo-Anne’s husband.
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I think of romantic as expressing love in an overt way, with gestures. In my mind love can be expressed in many different ways. It’s an interesting question to ponder.
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts. These make perfect sense.
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To me romance is more about special out of the ordinary attention to your partner. Like having a meal together is nice, but a candle light dinner cooked especially for them is more romance. It is that little “extra” you add to it.
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Thanks for sharing. In that sense, I’m not romantic whatsoever.
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